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Documentary, What the Health
Today Aug 12th in History:
30 bc Cleopatra VII, Queen of Egypt, commits suicide.
1908 Henry Ford‘s first Model T rolls off the assembly line.
1961 The erection of the Berlin Wall begins, preventing access between East and West Germany.
1977 The space shuttle Enterprise makes its first free flight and landing.
1981 Computer giant IBM introduces its first personal computer.
1762 George IV, named Prince Regent in 1810 when his father, George III, is declared insane.
1781 Robert Mills, architect and engineer whose designs include the Washington Monument, the National Portrait Gallery and the U.S. Treasury Building.
1881 Cecil B. DeMille, American film director, producer and screenwriter, famous for epic productions. Started on stage, moved to silent film, then talking film. The Ten Commandments (1923) The King of Kings Cleopatra (1934
He went on to receive his first nomination for the Academy Award for Best Director for his circus drama The Greatest Show on Earth (1952), which won the Academy Award for Best Picture. His last and most famous film, The Ten Commandments (1956), is currently the seventh-highest-grossing film of all time, adjusted for inflation.
BACK TO SCHOOL SUPPORT
Let’s deal with the most intensely felt experience first- the wild adjustment in sleep schedules. One of the greatest pleasures of summer for children is the late nights filled with movies and sleepovers and lazy mornings with pajama filled days. The first day of school is no time for a drastic adjustment of household sleep schedules. Instead, ease children back into a school year routine gradually. During the last two weeks of summer, re-introduce a school year bedtime. Begin waking late sleepers earlier and earlier, closer to the hour they’ll need to rise when school begins.
Next, get yourself a proper master calendar with enough different color pens to cover each member of the family. Get all the school calendar dates entered. Those pesky half-days that catch us off guard and we often don’t realize they aren’t attached to a weekend (whhhyyyyy?!) until they happen. Here’s a link to the Collier County School Calendar and the Lee County School Calendar to get you started.
The first week of school will require you to fill out no less that 30 pieces of paper with the same name, address, phone, other phone, third phone just in case, email, fax, beeper, preferred method of contact, emergency contact, other emergency contact, emergency contact for your emergency contact, summer address, street you were born on, first pets name, childhood best friend and so on. Just brace yourself and get it done, otherwise they will send them all home again.
Papers of children’s work will come home daily. They must have a place to land or they will breed when you aren’t looking and take over your whole house before the end of the first week. I used this portfolio for my children, one portfolio for each child, every year of elementary school. They would come home, hand me their stack and I would drop it into the folder with no need to organize. It perfectly held one year’s worth of work. At the end of the year, it had expanded to exactly the size of the box it had been shipped in, so I repacked it, labeled it, and then tucked it in the garage for the children to go through when they are older and can decide what they’d like to keep.
At the speed children grow, it is nearly impossible that last years school clothes will still fit. Go through all the clothes, closet and drawers, before school starts. Pull out all of the clothes, have bags prepared for items to donate and those to trash. If any of the clothes are higher-end and are only gently worn, they can be consigned at stores like True Fashionistas or Once upon a child.
Next, anything damaged or stained is trash, gently worn goes to the next sibling or donate, and whatever still fits and the child still likes, gets folded and returned. Match up the socks while checking for holes. For boys, buy multiples of all the same socks, so when one gets a hole, you don’t lose the pair.
Decide ahead of time where homework is going to take place and get it situated to be able to support it. Centralize the most basic supplies like pencils, pencil sharpener, tape, crayons, eraser, etc. to keep in the vicinity along with a stack of scratch paper (perfect way to recycle one-sided copies). Here is a carousel organizer perfect for homework stations.
Another component of the homework station is your participation in it. Turn over the responsibility for schoolwork to the child from an early age. It is so important that they take ownership for their work before they get to high school as it’s so challenging to instill that during those HS years. A parenting style that is democratic where it is possible to help a child learn responsibility by allowing them to experience the consequences (failure or bad grade perhaps?) of not turning in a project on time.
Establishing the expectations now and requiring that they be upheld will create habits that will save you a tremendous amount of frustration throughout the year. Have backpacks filled, closed and by the door before bed. Have children layout outfits the night before. Sending children to school with lunch money may seem easy and convenient, but it is woefully inadequate nutritionally. Pack lunches from dinner leftovers with mini bottles of water (crack the seal of the lid first so the young ones don’t struggle at school) in the freezer to be added in the morning to keep lunch cold, it will be melted by lunch. Get in the habit of preparing a breakfast of substance the night before so it only needs heated in the morning and you won’t have the excess cookware and you ensure proper nourishment to get them through their days. For instance, if you do a big pancake breakfast over the weekend, double the batch and freeze the extras. They only need toasted for a hearty breakfast with fresh fruit. One of our favorites is baked oatmeal, can be cooked the night before.
One of the things that many likely have fallen off the wagon on over the summer, is ensuring that the kitchen is clean before going to bed. A clean kitchen with available counter space and an empty sink will save significant time, frustration and stress in the mornings. Once the kitchen is done, spend five minutes cleaning the living room, you will be shocked by the amount of cleaning you can get done.
The morning need not be chaotic. So much of the frenetic nature of mornings can be attributed to the energy we bring to the space. We often hear ourselves saying “we are running late” which means simply, that we have not given enough time for it to happen. So we can either prepare ourselves more effectively or keep being frustrated. No news on the TV, better yet, no TV. Why not try some classic music on very low and see how the energy shifts.
Now is a great time to establish expectations. One being that the children wake up on their own with an alarm, not with you. It will only take a few panicky mornings for them to realize it’s their responsibility, but only if you refuse to do it for them. The other expectation that will save you in the years to come, is to establish that if things are forgotten- lunch, homework, sports equipment- that they will not be rescued by having it delivered at their whim. The embarrassment of being benched for practice because they forgot their uniform will be all that it takes for that not to happen again.
Here are three rules, provided by positiveparenting.org, to teach children responsibility:
1- Stop remembering for them
2- Don’t say “I told you so!”
3- Don’t tell them what will happen, let the consequences do the talking for you.
So the first thing parents need to do is stop reminding! When parents remind children, they rely on the reminders and become incapable of remembering for themselves. We parents cannot understand why they don’t remember since we tell them over and over! But it’s the telling them over and over that creates the irresponsibility. The second thing we need to do is stop saying “I told you so!” or “See what happens when you forget?” In this case the child is focused on how mean we are or how stupid they are, and not on learning to be responsible.
And finally, stop telling them how the world works, let the world and the natural consequences in it teach your child. When you tell them, then they will focus on you as the teacher and not learn from the way the world works. What I love most about this parental response is that I can make myself be the safe haven when that big bad world is teaching my children. For example when my daughter, would forget her lunch, I would have a sandwich and food ready when she got home. “Wow, you must be starving! Here, have a sandwich!” If she tried to blame me, saying “Why didn’t you bring me my lunch!” I would just say, “You must have been really hungry from forgetting your lunch, you need another snack?” And she would see it was her responsibility and not mine, and I was actually soothing her.
Finally, over time you can help your children be more responsible by teaching them how to think. When you tell them what to do, they don’t learn. When you ask questions, in a loving way, they learn to use their brains. Habits are hard to break so if you find yourself telling your child to do something, phrase it in a question instead. For example, instead of saying, “It’s time for school”, say “What time do you need to leave in order to be on time?”
BACK TO SCHOOL SUPPORT!
Ignore the fact that the heat index is 108 degrees, summer is coming to a screeching halt. Kids and parents are trying to wrap their brains around where the summer went – we had so much we wanted to do! Books to read, travel, BBQ with friends, let alone all those big projects that we wistfully fantasized about being done, like the closet editing, toy purge, deep cleaning the pantry and the like. It’s a great lesson to reflect on that if it doesn’t get calendared, it doesn’t get done.
So let’s start with today! We are on the verge of very early mornings, paper piles that breed, homework, sports, activities, recitals and events. There are several things we can do now that will help brace us for the coming transition.
The film exposes the collusion and corruption in government and big business that is costing us billions of healthcare dollars and keeping us sick. It features Kip Anderson [the director, editor, producer, and writer] along with Dr. Michael Greger, Dr. Alan Goldhamer, Dr. Milton Mills, Dr. Michelle McMacken, and Dr. Neal Barnard.
The film details the collusion of the national associations (i.e. American Cancer Society) with the companies that make the foods that cause the disease (Yum! Brands pays 10's of millions to the American Cancer Society, American Heart Association gets 10's of millions from multiple beef councils, Kraft, etc.) let alone the even higher payments coming to them from the pharmaceutical industries that make the specific drugs that make people maintain- NOT cure- the diseases that these organizations are supposedly there to help people recover from. They are not doing this even remotely.
This is a powerful must see to help everyone understand what you are being subjected to under the guise of helping you. Even worse, we are gifting them money to continue to do this!
The health care crisis has been created and support by our own government.
We got such strong feedback on this show we are re-running it for those who missed it!